One Year Post pt. 2

I never wanted to live in New York. I don't get to see my nephew grow up, I'm missing out on family parties, I don't have the convenience of my car,  I have to adapt to seasons, and I can't casually get some In-N-Out or carne asada fries.

Why would I want to be pulled away from the comfort of California, my family, my friends, my home?  In this year, I've realized that the location of home is arbitrary.  Home becomes where your spouse is, because your spouse becomes your home.  You two become one flesh, a new family, and all the familiar things you leave behind are necessary costs for the sake of beginning a new life with your husband. So while I sometimes long to be back on the west coast, we cling to knowing that God has a plan to grow us and use us, whether here or there. - Melody

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One Year Post.

John Lauren Photography

Yesterday marked a full year since Melody and I had our wedding. In that time a question that's become standard for our friends to ask us is "So what's it like being married?" The question never seemed an ill-fit to me, because of course I used to think the same way they did, that after the wedding you suddenly step into this brand new reality, like starting college or moving to the city. And in many ways I still believe it's like that, but since that time I've learned marriage is actually more like planting a garden. Sure, there have been a lot of changes to our lives that have happened almost instantly (we didn't live together before); but how marriage really changes you as a person, in all the cool remarkable ways, is only seen slowly and after a lot of effort. Starting a blog only seemed appropriate. - Julian